Raw Story posted a recent study showing sexually degrading lyrical content can impact a teenager’s sexual habits:
Among heavy listeners of sexually degrading music – where men are “studs” and women are sex objects – 51 per cent started having sex within two years, versus 29 per cent of those who listened to little or none of that type of music.
Wingnuts and fundies will see the letters s-e-x and stop there, arguing that we now have proof in hand that talking sex equates to sexual behavior. They’ll extend it beyond music and go straight for sex ed and all forms of sex media. After all, it can’t just be Gene Simmons’ fault, can it?
But let’s remember that the entire phrase is “sexually degrading.” It turns out that sexual lyrics sans degradation are nothing to fear:
Martino said there was no correlation found between sexual behaviour and sexualized lyrics that were not degrading in tone.
Martino said that degrading lyrics teach boys to relentlessly pursue women, while girls view themselves as sex objects.
To summarize for all the people who hear “sex” and then tune everything out after being blinded with repressed lust in the form of moral outrage, in this study sexual content doesn’t correlate to sexual behavior. Objectification does.
Arguably, this data provides some of the strongest proof yet that irresponsible teenage sexual behavior comes not from the exposure to sex as an idea but from instilling the patriarchal sexual hierarchy in children. So now it’s my turn to expand the implications of this study beyond music.
Protective parents want to shield their kids from all sexual influences, but they’ve been barking up the wrong tree. The data demonstrates that the more you respect the sexual autonomy of others, the more you believe in your right to control your own sexual behavior, the less likely you are to do something stupid out of a sense of entitlement or resignation to your fate.
As always, kids will have sex whenever they want, no matter how much a parent tries to prevent it. However, if you go the feminist route and preach equality, you arm your kids with knowledge that encourages responsibility. At the very least, you protect them from patriarchal attitudes that statistically encourage premature sexual behavior.
So don’t panic if your kid listens to sexy music. Panic if they listen primarily to music degrading women as objects of lust. And if they are listening to that kind of music, I would wager that the more you counteract its content with your own message of sexual equality, the better equipped your son or daughter will be to make smart decisions.
Someday, fundies and wingnuts are just going to have to accept that policies of sex-shaming and the promotion of sexual ignorance are far less effective than encouraging a belief in female sexual equality.
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