So I was just sittin’ at home, relaxing with some online poker and surfing the Blogosphere to occupy the mental space between hands, when on Feministing I came across this:
After the highest court of Maryland reheard the case which made the horrifying ruling that a woman cannot be raped once she has consented to sex, the court has overturned the decision and broadened the definition of rape…
Oh good, I thought to myself, feeling the momentary warm glow of faith restored in my fellow human beings. I did remember that case, of course, and how totally unbelievable it seemed to me at the time–you can’t actually give someone your BODY, y’know, of course it’s understood that your actual BODY the one and only irreplaceable item you live in 24/7 is a “loaner” situation ONLY…yeah, I never really believed they’d go through with that crazy ruling. Didn’t really remember the specific specifics of the situation but probably there was some technicality or something was misrepresented. Yeah! Happily I clicked on the thoughtfully-provided link to the Baltimore Sun story, and was greeted by:
Definition of rape widened
By Julie Bykowicz | Sun reporter
April 17, 2008
The state’s highest court ruled yesterday that a man can be charged with rape if he ignores a woman’s calls to stop – even if she had previously consented to sex.
WHOA!
Run that by me again…
(dramatic pause indicated by dash)EVEN IF! she had previously consented to sex
Have you ever turned in a project at work, felt really good about it, gone to your boss’s office ready for a little congratulatory back-patting, and found yourself instead getting seriously told how badly you missed the actual point of the entire thing? Have you ever taken a test, turned it in, felt really good about it, held out your hand for your B-at-the-minimum paper, and found yourself staring at a D instead?
I made a feeble attempt at rallying, though. So they phrased it, er, in a fashion that seemed to indicate that it was a shocking radical notion that a if a woman said she wanted to have sex with you, that didn’t give you legal ownership of all her bodily orifices til you, not her, decided you were through with them. Probably a typo..! Or maybe I’m being oversensitive. Cause I’m afraid I might sometimes be oversensitive when it comes to the “R” word. God knows that it’s easy to be oversensitive—
With this expansion of the legal definition of rape, Maryland joins seven other states whose courts have determined that a woman can revoke her consent after intercourse begins.
(Shocked silence.)
(me, in a small voice) “I didn’t know that the default in 86% of the United States was that I wasn’t allowed to revoke consent whenever I felt like it.”
Always thought I could.
Always operated under that assumption.
I guess I’m luckier than I even knew that I got disillusioned this way, rather than…some OTHER way, eh?
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