when the status quo frustrates.

Domestic Violence

Sunday, August 15th, 2010

This post might potentially triggering to victims of domestic violence, or people who had to witness it. It also might suck, because my thoughts are a bit muddled and I’m trying to straighten them out via blogpost. For these reasons, I’m putting pretty much the whole thing below the fold.

Today’s Giggle Moment

Saturday, April 10th, 2010

Scholars of boys and men converged Wednesday at Wagner College, in Staten Island, N.Y., to announce the creation of the Foundation for Male Studies, which will support a conference and a journal targeted at exploring the triumphs and struggles of the XY-chromosomed of the human race — without needing to contextualize their ideas as being one half of a male-female binary or an offshoot of feminist theory.

…I read that sentence like, three times in a row and it still made no sense to me…so I hadn’t reached the giggle moment yet–

More than anything else, the event was a chance for supporters to frame men and boys as an underrepresented minority


Lionel Tiger, a professor of anthropology at Rutgers University, said the field takes its cues “from the notion that male and female organisms really are different”…The culprit, said Tiger, is feminism: “a well-meaning, highly successful, very colorful denigration of maleness as a force, as a phenomenon.”

Paul Nathanson, a researcher in religious studies at McGill University and co-author of a series of books on misandry — the hatred of men and boys — conceded that “there is some critique of feminism that’s going to be involved” in male studies. “There are some fundamental features of ideological feminism over the last 30 or 40 years that we need to question.”

He also decried “the institutionalization of misandry” which, he said, is “being generated by feminists, [though] not all feminists.”

Um…so basically what this is is the creation of the Foundation for Anti-Feminist Studies…it’s not really about men at all, is it? It’s Feminism Sucks 101! Which is why, truly, these folks are not calling their bullshit Men’s Studies, because, uh. Men’s Studies (an interdisciplinary academic field devoted to topics concerning men, masculinity, gender, and politics) already exists and has existed for the past 30 years.

Male studies’ combative tone toward feminism and women’s studies programs is one reason why Robert Heasley, president of the American Men’s Studies Association, turned down an invitation to speak at the event.

Yeah, I don’t suppose he’s too crazy about the idea of his actual, real academic discipline getting associated with a hate movement.

Edward Stevens, chair of the On Step Institute for Mental Health Research, said he wants to see male studies search for ways to improve male academic performance. “What are the ethical concerns of devoting 90 percent of resources to one gender?” he asked (though without explaining exactly what he meant).

LOL, seriously! which gender is that and how can I join up? Cuz that doesn’t describe either of the genders that I’m familiar with…this is SO funny! And amazing that anybody would want to waste their one-and-only adult life on this kind of crap, either founding it or, er, “studying” it. The Westboro Baptist Church, Ann Coulter, “Male” Studies…it takes all kinds…what would a deck of cards be without the jokers? I mean, I’ve never actually played a game of cards in which the jokers were ever used but I’d have missed them if they weren’t there in the deck when I pulled it out of the box! If I even noticed they weren’t there in the first place, I would SO miss ‘em! :D

Stop crying! Our gonads shut down, too, dammit!

Wednesday, August 30th, 2006

You know what pisses off men? When your ovaries shut down. And it isn’t for the reasons you think.

Women hog all the attention in mid-life just because of the menopause phenomenon. They get to act all depressed and mood-swingy while playing the get-out-of-jail-free card known as “hormone changes.”

This is totally unfair. Men have way more taxing mid-life crises than women — you don’t see nearly as many ladies rushing out to buy Corvettes and harrass Hooters waitresses, do you? [Checkmate.] Yet men don’t get a bodily excuse for our behavior; somehow our petulant overreactions are our fault.

Fortunately, this may be changing. The concept of “manopause” is taking root, and it’s about damn time. In fact, Rosanna Arquette’s making a documentary about it.

This thing is for real, yo. Men start losing testosterone at a rate of 1% per year starting around age 30, which is, uh, _exactly_ like menopause. That’s the ticket. I mean, hey, some women go through menopause for a couple years — that’s practically forever in man years (which is about as long as it takes for balls to close up shop permanently).

You may think there’s a limit to what we’ll co-opt, but clearly you underestimate us. Men won’t tolerate women monopolizing the pause. We want one too, and whether you call it manopause or andropause or shittyexcuseformybehaviorpause, we’ll shoehorn the idea into the mainstream no matter how many Arquette and/or Baldwin documentaries it takes.

Some men really do go through significant hormonal changes in their 40s and 50s. Calling it something with a -pause on the end not only legitimizes this experience, but it let’s the rest of us use it as an excuse women will be forced to accept. As a bonus, it minimizes menopause by equating it with something totally dissimilar and less immediately traumatic.

Trifecta, baby. High five.

Honey, while you’re out, could you pick up a paycheck?

Monday, July 31st, 2006

According to the NYT, as far as the workplace is concerned, some men are just saying no:

Millions of men like Mr. Beggerow — men in the prime of their lives, between 30 and 55 — have dropped out of regular work. They are turning down jobs they think beneath them or are unable to find work for which they are qualified, even as an expanding economy offers opportunities to work.

About 13 percent of American men in this age group are not working, up from 5 percent in the late 1960’s. The difference represents 4 million men who would be working today if the employment rate had remained where it was in the 1950’s and 60’s.

Ah, how generous of the American male — 4 million feminist supporters holding the door for women to take the jobs they think.. are… beneath… well, okay, the job might be a bit of a fixer-upper. But we promise it’s a great starter gig. Lots of advancement opportunities. Yep. Whoo, what time is it? I, uh, gotta go. [scampers off]

Beggerow was a steelworker, but it isn’t just the blue collar man sitting on the sidelines to help the cause of feminism:

“To be honest, I’m kind of looking for the home run,” said Christopher Priga, who is 54 and has not had steady work since he lost a job with a six-figure income as an electrical engineer at Xerox in 2002. “There’s no point in hitting for base hits,” he explained. “I’ve been down the road where I did all the things I was supposed to do, and the end result of that is nil.”

Instead, Mr. Priga supports himself by borrowing against the rising value of his Los Angeles home. Other men fall back on wives or family members.

Hey, look at that! Not only are a number of these men giving women the chance to hold jobs, but they’re also sharing the joy of supporting a family with their wives. That’s so sweet. I’m sure they’re picking up the slack back at the homestead to show their gratitude.

Today, about 73 percent of women between 30 and 54 have a job, compared with 45 percent in the mid-1960’s, according to an analysis of Census data by researchers at Queens College. Many women without jobs are raising children at home, while men who are out of a job tend to be doing neither family work nor paid work.

Err, well, um, we promise we’ll take little Johnny to the park as soon as the game’s over.


Fathers Day Battle of the Bad Dads

Sunday, June 18th, 2006

Absent Dad forfeited by not showing up.

Indifferent Dad showed up but gave a half-hearted fight against Lazy Dad, who just kinda rolled around on the canvas until he knocked over Indifferent Dad. Indifferent Dad didn’t really feel like getting up after that.

Lazy Dad had no chance against Substance Abuse Dad, who hit him over the head with a Jack Daniels bottle.

Bully Dad challenged Substance Abuse Dad’s manhood, taunting him until Substance Abuse Dad turned into Depressed Dad and drank himself to sleep.

Jock Dad tackled Bully Dad from behind with a devastating blow and chastised him for talking the talk but not walking the walk. Bully Dad was also apparently lacking “heart” and “hustle.”

Infallible Dad tapped Jock Dad on the shoulder and pointed out that this match was over Because He Said So. Jock Dad wanted to argue, but Infallible Dad is deaf when others try to speak. Plus, he used that tone with which you just can’t argue.

Weight-Obsessed Dad strolled in and tapped Infallible Dad on his man-gut. With a powerfully raised eyebrow, Weight-Obsessed Dad, despite being 10x fatter than Infallible Dad, managed to embarrass him out of the ring.

Passive Aggressive Dad teamed up with Manipulative Dad to out-shame Weight-Obsessed Dad with offerings like “I’m sure complaining about someone else’s weight is a fine career, I’ve just never heard of anyone actually succeeding at it,” and “It’s your life, but I’m just glad your mother can’t see you like this, god rest her soul.”

Cheats on Wife Dad convinced those two that there was unlimited blowjob potential outside the ring if they were man enough to take it. They decided they were.

Loves A Sibling More Than You Dad told Cheats on Wife Dad that kind of illicit behavior was precisely why he gave a car to his brother but not him. Of course, if Cheats on Wife Dad decided to step out of the ring, he might reconsider and buy him one, too. He did. Manipulative Dad went to the judge and pointed out that Loves A Sibling More Than You Dad stole his tactics, and judge DQed him.

Physically Abusive Dad promptly belt-whipped said judge and told him that he better just end the fight right now or there would be hell to pay. The judge scurried to get the belt, but just as he was about to hand it over, the arena spotlight suddenly focused on one of the luxury suites.

Bathed in the light was Cheney-level Conservative Dad, who blared over the PA system that if Physically Abusive Dad wanted to avoid having his house repossessed, he would bring that belt up to the suite immediately. Physically Abusive Dad had no choice. He brought it up to the suite, but Cheney-level Conservative Dad still took his house, and had a bodyguard gut the bastard anyway, just in case he got uppity down the road.

Happy fucking Father’s Day, Cheney-level Conservative Dad. You’re the baddest dad in all the land.

Woman Ordered To Make Her Kids Visit Her Rapist

Friday, May 5th, 2006

When your convicted rapist is known to your children as “Daddy,” you might find that you are required to ensure his visitation rights while he rots his ass in prison and plots ways to continue to control you:

In a quiet, unwavering tone, Kim Linetty chronicles the events of the day nearly four years ago in step-by-step clarity.

She details the multiple phone calls to police, her screams to neighbors and the swelling sense of dread that something horrible was about to happen to her.

Then Linetty tells of the attack — how he wrestled her to the ground, punched her in the head, pulled down her pants and raped her, covering her mouth and threatening death during the assault.

I can already tell this guy is a great father.

“A day doesn’t go by that I don’t think about what happened,” she says.

Linetty’s voice grows louder and firmer when the conversation turns to a judge’s ruling ordering her to take her three children to the Indiana State Prison, where the man convicted of raping her that day is serving time for the crime.

The ruling angers and mystifies Linetty, who says she has no intention of following the order despite the risk of a contempt of court charge.

“He wasn’t a father when he was free, so I don’t know what gives him the right to be a father now,” said Linetty, 33, of South Bend. “I didn’t think a judge in his right mind would order this to happen.”

Others have responded to this frightening case and the swarm of Father’s Rights groups who praise the judge for being so thoughtful of the best interests of the children. The best part of this awful story (and by “best” I mean “most disgusting”):

Weldy [the rapist, if you've forgotten --ed.] , according to Linetty’s account of the proceedings that are closed to reporters to protect the children, is attempting to file a request with the judge that Linetty be held in contempt of court for failing to obey the order.

If Linetty disobeys the judge’s order and is charged with contempt, everyone loses, said Leving, the Chicago attorney.

“She could end up in jail with him and then you have both parents incarcerated, and that’s a benefit to no one,” Leving said.

Everyone’s solution? Get her a caseworker!