And, as you noted, it’s only given to women considering abortion.

Think harder about this, please. Do you really think I’d have written a similar post about an article that spoke only of the need to comfort women with pregnancies gone horrible wrong?

If it also bothers you that I personally would find it revolting to participate in the whole “perinatal hospice” scenario, I can’t help you there. It doesn’t bother me that you DID yearn for such a thing, so why do you care that I would run from it like the hounds of hell were on my heels?

Twisting the words of others, especially when those words are clearly printed above your comment in their original context, is pretty pointless. I did not say I had “a problem with women being told what their CHOICES are when it comes to the life and death of their child.” I said, I quote, “I’m not a big fan of pressuring pregnant women in the guise of offering them “choices.”

“Choices” are not CHOICES. If you need an example, go to the Minnesota “Women’s Right to Know” handbook available online–Minnesota is a state where women are required to be informed of their “choices” when seeking an abortion (stated in the article)–not when simply pregnant, mind you–ONLY when seeking an abortion. Here’s the website:

http://www.health.state.mn.us/wrtk/handbook.html

If you are genuinely pro-choice, as you claim, I find it difficult to believe that you would really find that handbook something dedicated to genuinely educating women about their CHOICES. Rather, it is all about “choices,” and pressure, lots and lots of it.

How do you think they’re going to present the option of a perinatal hospice vs. a therapeutic abortion, given how they’re presenting everything else to do with abortion?

You say you are pro-choice, but have a problem with women being told what their CHOICES are when it comes to the life & death of their child.

When my child was dx with a fatal defect I wanted to know ALL of my options. Thankfully I was given the options & I went home, thought about it, researched what would happen if I terminated, and what might happen if I carried to term & I choosto carry on with the pregnancy. Thinking about my child being ripped from my body piece by piece made me feel sick. This was a planned & wanted pregnancy. I respect a womans right to terminate, but that wasnt for me.

I only wish I had had this service around when I was pregnant. It would have been priceless!

Please remember I am a pro-CHOICE, agnostic. Not everyone that agrees with this is a pro-life, Jesus freak!

i think the daily ultrasound part feels weird to me not because you shouldn’t love your kid and want to see it, but because as a medical person I see it as a medical tool, not a photo booth. it has nothing to do with the viability of the baby: I thought it was equally strange when some celebrity couple supposedly had their own ultrasound for seeing the baby (Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise, maybe?).

Outside of the general pro-life movement and on to a personal level–for me personally, it would be horrible and revolting to watch my deformed and dying fetus every day on ultrasound and then have a professional photographer there to photograph him while he died after birth. For you personally, I have absolutely no opinion about whether or not it was horrible and revolting; I wouldn’t presume to make that call. It was your fetus and you did what you wanted with it and that’s the only part of the situation that I feel compelled to comment on, and my comment is, “I am pro-choice so I agree that you had every right to do what you did without any interference from anyone else.”

LadyGrey”Crisis pregnancy centers wouldn’t have this ghoulish opportunity if hospitals did a better job caring for women delivering babies that are going to die.”

You got that right!

There was no risk in me carrying my son to full term & had he passed away before birth then my labor would have been induced. No dr is going to make you carry a baby that has already died.

I also dont understand why its weird to want professional pictures taken of my child???

Women are not forced to carry babies with lethal defects..their is a choice. Most mothers find out between 12 & 20 weeks that something is wrong. Well within the legal time frame to have an abortion.

You have to enlist in this hospice service..its not forced on anyone that I can see.
No more than abortion was being forced on me.

I was referring to things that are considered “incompatible with life” as well as fetuses that are actually dead. A fetus that can’t live outside your body is dying; you have it on total life support, just like a adult with a crushed brain on total life support is in fact a breathing, heart-pumping corpse. Frequently fetuses that can’t live outside the womb are “delivered” (if you want to call it that) prematurely, as your body does eventually figure out that it is supporting what is essentially a corpse and proceeds to eject it. Since a fetus like that could be dead at any time and you wouldn’t know it unless you were hooked up to a fetal heart monitor 24/7, I do really feel comfortable referring to such fetuses as “dying or dead.”

I agree that hospitals could do a better job, though the stories I’ve read about the ones that do a bad job generally are due to the anti-choice attitude of the staff to any woman who doesn’t want to pull the deathwatch. As I said, I’m pro-choice, so I absolutely support the right of any woman who feels she needs it for her emotional well-being to wait til she miscarries or has an uninduced stillbirth, and I hope for those women it does end up actually having helped them. I do reserve the right to be revolted by the smug self-righteousness oozing out of the entire story told by said woman and to vehemently oppose legislating pressuring women into doing it, though.