In a few years everyone will be bisexual anyway, what with Tila Tequila leading the way? lol Jeeze, everyone should have turned yesterday.

-at a local gay bar last night, being told – jokingly – ‘Naw, you’re a lesbian’ when I’d just said otherwise.
-entirely, 100% gay people insisting that bisexuality is ‘sitting in traffic’ and that it goes away if you get into…assumptions vary, some say any long-term relationship, some just say any opposite-gender relationship.
-a reluctance to add anti-biphobia clauses to anti-homophobia/transphobia pledges. This is probably just a case of people overlooking a problem because they want to pretend it’s not there. A gay friend of mine tried to deal with this while he was in the NUS LGBT conference system, and it was an uphill struggle.
-among lesbians, hearing the stereotype that all bi women are just straight girls on a rebound and if you date one she’ll just leave you for a man once she’s got over it. I don’t know if bi men get hit by this one.
-among both gays and lesbians, insistence that a relationship between a gay person and a bi person is doomed to fail for no reason beyond the bi person’s sexuality.

It’s not like this is a day-in-day-out problem so much as something you bang your head against every so often, but it’s there.

…I think it’s way more complex than that. For one thing, it’s not zero-sum, as a sliding scale with outliers would imply; increasing attraction to one gender doesn’t mean decreasing attraction to the other. Some people are attracted to different genders in different ways; I may want to do different bedroom things with different genders; etc. etc. etc.

Seuxality isn’t a point on a scale, it’s a function over a space with dozens and dozens of dimensions. And the function might be piecewise, further complicating things!

Sorry if I mathgeeked-out a bit there. But yeah, “attraction” isn’t even quantifiable except in the vaguest of terms.

I’ve heard tell of the prejudice found in some queer circles against bisexuals, and it really baffles me. I have no idea how or why that happens; it’s totally contrary to what I expected. But as I haven’t experienced any of that myself, I defer to others’ experiences.

Or, as Bitchy Jones said, “…women are ‘more fluid’[?] That’s not even true. If there is a sex who is notorious for getting into same sex action when in prison or the army or some such it’s men.”

(I have known a few bisexual-IDing men, tho’. The supposed breakdown among young people (16-24) in the UK is: men; 6% gay, 3% bi, 4% up for experiments; and women 2% gay, 5% bi and 11% up for experiments…which says a lot about our culture, really).

The finding runs counter to the idea that bisexuality is an experimental or transitional period for women who, for instance, are uncertain or have fear of commitment.

Wow. They thought that? Fear of whatnow? Who came up with that one? And why didn’t they tell let me know? Or did they come up with it by – letmeguess – not actually studying bisexual people at all, much less asking us how we felt about it over the long run?

To be fair, I’m guessing that bisexuals are far harder to study as a group than either straight or gay people simply because we disappear into the woodwork more readily. LGBT social sets aren’t immune to biphobia. All the other bisexuals I know are just people I’ve chanced to meet & befriend along the way, rather than in LGBT spaces – we’ve all, including those in long-term same-sex relationships, either shifted out of those spaces or never been welcomed into them in the first place. Meanwhile, the straight world would like to assume that we’re as straight as they are, ie, not really there.