i think there is room to argue, though, that there is a small (perhaps too small to be relevant to this conversation, but i will digress) segment of the population that is attracted to these sort of ‘novelty’ items just for the sake of better sex (’femmytight’ notwithstanding–seems like something they’d sell in the bathroom of a convenience store), or for pure pleasure purposes, rather than out of fear of losing a companion, or not stacking up enough to the competition.

i.e., maybe i (ok, not me per se… the imaginary I) can’t keep up with my girl, so i need something to enhance my performance… i genuinely want her to be satisfied sexually. maybe i love her enough to do anything i can to keep her happy, not out of fear but love–even if my misguided Ponce de Leon-like quest for the ever elusive 2-3 inches may end fruitless. and maybe she thinks a tighter vadge would enhance our sex…like maybe she just wants to feel more? i personally find the product to be particularly silly, but i (maybe just for argument purposes if nothing else) refuse to accept that sexual enhancement products can’t coexist peacefully with feminist ideology.

like i’ve always thought the feminist view of viagra as a tool of the patriarchy to be true to some extent, but an unfortunately narrow point of view. what about happy aging couples that just want to be able to fuck out their final years together? what about other men in otherwise good relationships that just don’t have it anymore and still want to be able to please their partner?

i really believe in any healthy sexual relationship there is adequate room to explore boundaries without reinforcing traditional male dominant roles–even those products which, on the surface, look pretty fuckin skeezy. and you shouldn’t have to feel the liberal guilt thing for enjoying them.

for the record, i would define ‘healthy’ as being two people who understand the nature of the society we live in, accept and fight the fact that we live in patriarchal society, and who can openly communicate with each other about their sexual preferrences.

okay. hope that was coherent.

PS–if i haven’t made it clear: i find this particular company to be complete douchebags who do exploit the worst of our society’s sexual attitudes for cheap profit. fuck them all.

Um, seriously though? I got nothin’

So nice try, but no dice.

coming at it from a feminist perspective, yeah, there’s really no way around the patriarchal slant. but i see this more as a spillover of consumer culture into american sexuality than anything else. in everything we do, we are trained to want more, want better. in this case, a tighter box. in other cases, a bigger dick. or one that can rise on command. bigger tits. harder abs. tighter ass.

we are trained to be ever looking for the next big upgrade. the new version of what we already have. products aimed at increasing your ‘perceived value’ on the sexuality market aim to profit off this mentality–that at any moment you could lose your girl/boyfriend/husband/wife to someone just a little better. and if you can just say one step ahead, you just might be able to hold on.

i could be way off on this–after all, one could rather easily argue that consumer culture itself reinforces the patriarch, thus negating pretty much everything i just said–but to me it seems part of a much larger social construction than simple male domination.

Well, you do if you spend your day walking on your hands, wearing no pants. Am I the only one who does that?

Big Old Sigh.

It just never stops, Does it?

My Mind is literally boggling, BOGGLING I TELL YOU!!!

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