Kyso, amen. There is an impressive old book by a couple of researchers one of whom is actually in my area, and more known for doing work on Child Abuse but it’s called “Licence to Rape” from the 1980s, all about marital rape, and all the perps wanted to have it both ways, to simultaneously insist that they were entitled to “take sex” from “withholding bitches” (esp if their wives were trying to divorce them) and at the same time saying “yes, I guess it was rape – but she could have fought harder, so it wasn’t” – and think about it, the culture says that “girls always say no when they mean yes,” of course boys raised to believe this are going to be like those stud dogs and stallions I wrote about on Pandagon, albeit without the excuses of not knowing any better.

sounds like an apt Clare Booth Luce sort of outfit, at that…

Not exactly. They do believe that women very frequently regret having sex, particularly casual sex, because they believe women are always being used by men when they have sex. it is inconceivable to them that women might want to have sex because they want to have sex, rather than because they’ve been tricked into it or for male attention/approval. In essence, it’s because they believe women are always debased by sex, and thus frequently report rape to deflect their shame at having been debased by men.

That’s one of the major reasons I’m a feminist (the others being my mother raised me right; I have some common sense; and the realization that the same people who want to hang gays, lesbians and feminists would string me up next, white legs, ballsack and all). Around high school, I started realizing how many of the women I cared about had been raped, and in college, the numbers just got bigger and bigger.

Almost. Not quite.

But you repeat yourself.