There used to be a store in Waltham that carried up to mens 14 in heels. I don’t think its there anymore though, I think they were moving south along 128 but don’t remember where. They were the only place I could get non-standard type hose (for women) in a pinch on a Sat afternoon when I didn’t have time to run up to Burlington back in 95-96.

Someone at Friends Landing in Haverhill could probably give you a line on where to pick some up now.

I find I’m with Amber, Grendel, Foolishowl and Cheryl. I find other people telling me what I should enjoy sexually, and therefore what I should be ashamed of if it happens to be something else, terribly repressive and offinsive, not to mention none of their business (unless it includes exhabitionism and I inflict it on them without permission, warning or in an inappropriate setting, all just rude IMO).

That said, I’m not going to pretend that it’s a good idea to wear them constantly, that they aren’t bad for my back, and that they do make certain things like running difficult (although I can cross a cattle grid in them). I like them despite all that, for my own reasons, and I’m not too offended by people not automatically knowing those reasons. People are free to assume what they like about my shoes, and if queried I will explain my reasons for wearing them.

The only time I’m going to get pissed by anyone challenging my heel-wearing is if they dismiss or ignore that explanation and rationale, because then they cross the line into assuming they know what goes on in my head more than I do. I think a few people felt that way over the Great Blowjob Incident of 2006, although I didn’t necessarily see it.

MAJeff: http://www.funkefeet.com/ sell fetish heels up to a US 14, and is delightfully devoid of the trashy porn-style imagery that usually decorates such sites.

Choosing someone who thinks of sex that way will probably solve a lot of the patriarchical issues of sex.

Use your heads people, there’s a middle ground between patriarchy affirming anti-sex puritanical idiocy and anything goes patriarchy affirming idiocy, and that middle ground IS simply called “Feminism” by those in the know.

Then the issue becomes who gets to define where that middle ground is? Seems to me that conforming to someone else’s puritanical ideal about any given sex act is merely trading one owner for another. Only I get to decide what I like and what feels good. I get to choose what I want to do sexually and with whom. Anything less is something less than “Feminism,” imho.

There’s just something offensively patronizing about assuming you understand a woman’s motivations more than she does.

Which was EXACTLY what was offensive about Twisty’s original post on fellatio. It’s up to the individual to determine the individual’s own desires. Declaring what other’s desires are, or should be, is authoritarian.