Comments on: Dum-Diddy-Dum-Diddy-Adden-Dum

By: cecily

cecily — Tue, 04 Jul 2006 05:52:49 +0000

And it wasn’t a “strawradfem”, that’s about what I see coming from rad fems (on the sex issue). They get stymied because every other feminist solution requires rewards for taking baby steps and doesn’t have a built-in punishment structure.

Who is “they”? And some links or citations, please???? Cause if you can’t provide detail and specifics, it sure smells a lot like straw.

By: tigtog

tigtog — Sat, 01 Jul 2006 00:42:01 +0000

I want manly men, men in tights.

R. Mildred, just for you I posted one a coupla months ago. That man wuz robbed in the latest James Bond casting go-round, I tellz ya.

By: Amanda Marcotte

Amanda Marcotte — Sat, 01 Jul 2006 00:13:32 +0000

The truth is, “You’re doing it wrong” is not constructive criticism. It’s not constructive. It’s destructive. “Do it like this” is constructive.

By: Amanda Marcotte

Amanda Marcotte — Sat, 01 Jul 2006 00:11:05 +0000

Well I dislike saying things that might cause people in bed to have unnecessary bad feelings, yes. If you can keep it upbeat, why make it negative? No one wins that way, especially if you’re facing a soft cock due to hearing the word “wrong” in a rather vulnerable situation.

Hey, I’m a pansy. I don’t like being told I’m wrong when naked either.

By: Kylroy

Kylroy — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 20:26:35 +0000

Well, even when coupled with an alternate suggestion. The reminder of failure isn’t doing any useful work. The suggestion itself is a good thing.

But yeah, marc. I see your point. We’re splitting some mighty fine hairs here, and people should be able to take some negativity with their suggestions (even if I think they’re gratuitous).

By: punkass marc

punkass marc — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 20:18:56 +0000

Because it implies they can’t take a single lick of criticism, even in the form of an alternate suggestion, and it implies they trauma such a suggestion would inflict on them would either make them rebel or resent you. And if that’s actually how your partner is, you’ve got a bigger problem than teaching them to find their own damn keys.

By: Kylroy

Kylroy — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 20:05:53 +0000

It wouldn’t be terrible…just unproductive. The primary thing reminding people of their failure accomplishes is making them feel bad. If you can correct the problem without making people feel bad, why do it?

By: R. Mildred

R. Mildred — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 19:57:57 +0000

And that would be terrible, wouldn’t it?

By: Kylroy

Kylroy — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 19:14:41 +0000

“How does “You’re doing it wrong, try doing it like this” strike you?”

Strikes me as a being unable to resist reminding the person that they’re doing it wrong.

By: JackGoff

JackGoff — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 14:56:45 +0000

I want manly men, men in tights.

[gives self wedgie] TIIIIGHT tights?