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Over at Pandagon I wrote at the end of a longer general bitchy commentrant about Dawn Eden:

Note also that Dawn is A) unmarried and B) slutted it up in her younger days before converting to post-menopausal prudery.

which prompted commenter AndIf to reply:

post-menopausal prudery.

Nice one. Thank you for reminding me once again the esteem with which older women are viewed.

Now pay very close attention here John, for I shall say this only once, I could, if I really felt like it, piss and moan and insult the intelligence of AndIf and any other reader of this, by declaring that, oh no, in straight white feminist terminology “post-menopausal” is a good thing that doesn’t in anyway slam women with dried up ovaries (and the sexual freedom that entails), and I could probably make it sound plausible too, even though I used the term as part of an insult, an insult aimed at Dawn Eden no less (which makes it far far worse).

But that would be cowardly and show that I’m way too full of myself, and also dirty up the name of all feminists by equating my weasly cowardice and whiney primadonna behavior with the entire feminist community.

I could even do something that is far and away better than what you did, such as apologize for offending someone, but point out that I didn’t really mean it as an insult, that I just inserted that term to denote that Dawn is getting on a bit and used it more for the rhythm of the thing, and I didn’t express myself very well. Which, while not much better than the first one because It’s not actually an apology but merely looks similar enough that it might fool the slow witted, is still better than your primadonna hissy fit.

Or, if I’ve got even an ounce of honesty in my body, I could just note that her age is irrelevent to the crucial fact that Dawn Eden has been poked but never owned, thus making her entire gibbering about the “mystery” of sex even more nonsensical and irrelevent because sex can never be “mysterious” for her, and she has no real experience of a successful marriage either so what the hell is she gibbering about really?

So considering all that is so, and that insulting an often dumped on and fucked over group is unneccesary, bigoted and ageist, plus the neccesity of pointing out that her ovaries have run out of juice, which inherently links any insult of that kind with her reproductive “use”, adds a nasty little patriarchal bit of misogyny ontop of it all, really makes the utterance totally uncalled for and unjustifiable. After which I’d apologize unconditionally.

Unless AndIf hasn’t given money to bellatrys yet, in which case she’s got no room to complain.