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So I’m on the look out for some good snark and a quick hop over to Dawn Patrol shows Dawn Eden writing what to my mind appears to be an application for headship of the Patriotic Anti-Sex League:

The real sin here is the what I believe is the great sin of the sexual revolution: the idea that sex needs to be “demystified.” That’s the line of thinking that makes perverts prey upon young girls. It also makes parents let their children watch obscene films or read porn magazines — as I saw a father do with his 10-year-old son on the train last week — because “the kids’ll just see them anyway, so it’s better that we know about it.”

To deprive sex of its spiritual component — which is what the hippies did, and the beatniks before them, and the Theosophists and Sangerites before them — is to reduce human beings to disposable commodities.

My faith tells me that marital sex, like all acts blessed with holiness, is a great mystery — and from thence comes its beauty.

Of course this is all bullshit, the concept of “mystery” relies entirely on the reveal, at which point it is lost forever and all you’re left with is The Truth. It’s nothing more than a sales tactic, in the mystery novel it’s what keeps you reading, in the Mystery cults of yore it was the promise of arcane knowledge and secrets that made people join them. Mystery, the suggestion of knowledge being kept from you, is a veil drawn over something, that piques our natural human curiosity and draws us to it, even when what is eventually revealed turns out not to be worth it, but the mystery doesn’t have to promise, it doesn’t matter what is revealed, only that there is something hidden, something that makes people want ot find out what that hidden thing is.

Think about that in relation to Love, mysterious sex acts as a draw, an intentional lie that makes a person go through the silly little initiation ritual, read through the poorly written novel, marry the completly selfish asshole, all to find out what is being hidden.

In short, Dawn thinks that lying and deceit is a central and integral part of Love. Which shouldn’t come as a surprise I guess, the conservative paradigm is based around an entirely binary superior/inferior paradigm in all things and interrelationships, and as a true “Lady” gives up all other forms of power, all there is left is the power of hidden knowledge, which acts like the evocative clothing of the “Madame” (which, let’s face it, is the honest face of a “lady” - someone who’s sole goal in life is to find a guy whom she can leech money and housing out of), with which men are promised something that isn’t neccesarily there, but which men flock to anyway, only to find themselves bored or entrapped, and for the marriage to fail disastrously for all involved.

The Sex-Positive Feminist Woman, having pussy control, having rejected the central message of patriarchy (women are less than human) does not need to hide, or lie, or dissemble to obtain power in her interpersonal relationships, she obtains power through nohting less than personhood, and becomes able to Love and be Loved in return because she isn’t stuck on this emotionally retarded and fear driven dom/sub dichotomy. She can simultaneously give into feeling love (which makes her vulnerable, which I think is why anti-sex feminists exist) and expressing it so that she can share it with others.

Of course Dawn forgets what every Feminist Woman knows already, that with great power comes great responsibility, and that responsibility involves knowing your self, mind and body before you dare wield the awesome power of Love, which of course is the point of “abstinence only education”, to stop teenagers from knowing they have to be responsible and how to be responsible so that they’ll fuck up, get knocked up, and ideally be married off or, if she survives the inevitable fuck up, she’ll be so scared of remaking it that she’ll end up like Dawn there, afraid and reliant on mystery to give her power.

And of course Fear is how patriarchy works most of the time, because with fear you don’t need to actually do anything you just need to make people worry about you doing something, will the Patriarchy rape me if I let myself love someone? Will the Patriarchy abuse me if I let someone love me? And pretty soon you’re renouncing your humanity, swallowing lies and hoping “mystery” will make up for the emptiness that the fear of Love creates in you, until you get so desperate that any guy will do.

It’s that fear, and the rejection of it when we embrace Love that makes us human, as Jesus himself taught (as though Dawn could care). It’s the “mystery” and fear that the Patriarchy instils in women that makes us into inhuman disposable commodities, nothing more and nothing less.

Love is just empathy taken to its logical conclusion, and has no upper or lower limits that means we must only Love that one Great Lover, and shy away from all the fun Lovers a healthy, caring person needs to go through in a lifetime, with all the pain and heartache that such things entail, because a good person, a human person, a moral person, cannot let fear dictate their life to the point where they turn their backs on the suffering of others and themselves, or begin to actively harm others with their deceits and lies.

Don’t Fear the Love Dawney-darling! (it’s only a kitten)